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jeffk · 03-12-2010, 12:24 PM

I really find this thread very funny. There seems to be a lot of people very disturbed that a religious group that has been in existence for over 2000 years won't adjust their beliefs to accommodate the picture perfect wedding. I was in leadership in a church (not catholic) and there are significant reasons why these type of rules exist. First, the church isn't a McDonald's restaurant, drive by and order. A church exists to support members as a family, to support the marriage, to support the education of members and their children in the faith. That's not possible when the couple is only dropping by for the day. Also, I don't know how strong a faith this couple has but if they aren't that committed why do they have the expectation they can get a priest on demand? Why do you need a priest at all if your faith is only good on Easter or Christmas? Again, I don't know this couples situation.

It is my opinion that if the couple was significantly connected to the church they would have known about this issue beforehand. The church is not like a carpenter that comes to your house and does just what you want. It is a representative of a belief system that is not subject to individual whims. I will be the first to agree that often the dogma of a church is at times silly but in many other cases it is not. But I think that people who think the church behavior should be changed to suit their personal needs are rather self centered and foolish. They don't get the purpose of the church.

Now you can disagree with me and the church all you want. In that case go get a rent-a-priest or JP and be happy with your choice. I doubt it really makes that much of a difference to you except that you can't get what you wanted.

03-12-2010, 12:24 PM	#8
jeffk Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Center Harbor Posts: 1,166 Thanks: 205 Thanked 432 Times in 249 Posts	Funny thread I really find this thread very funny. There seems to be a lot of people very disturbed that a religious group that has been in existence for over 2000 years won't adjust their beliefs to accommodate the picture perfect wedding. I was in leadership in a church (not catholic) and there are significant reasons why these type of rules exist. First, the church isn't a McDonald's restaurant, drive by and order. A church exists to support members as a family, to support the marriage, to support the education of members and their children in the faith. That's not possible when the couple is only dropping by for the day. Also, I don't know how strong a faith this couple has but if they aren't that committed why do they have the expectation they can get a priest on demand? Why do you need a priest at all if your faith is only good on Easter or Christmas? Again, I don't know this couples situation. It is my opinion that if the couple was significantly connected to the church they would have known about this issue beforehand. The church is not like a carpenter that comes to your house and does just what you want. It is a representative of a belief system that is not subject to individual whims. I will be the first to agree that often the dogma of a church is at times silly but in many other cases it is not. But I think that people who think the church behavior should be changed to suit their personal needs are rather self centered and foolish. They don't get the purpose of the church. Now you can disagree with me and the church all you want. In that case go get a rent-a-priest or JP and be happy with your choice. I doubt it really makes that much of a difference to you except that you can't get what you wanted.