is a wonderful thing. In real life, many problems occur over time, not spontaneously. People brood, they build up feelings rather than erupt. I think LI makes a great point. The personal approach is far easier to target problems. If I make a post that offends, no matter how many or few it does offend, I want to know about it personally. I will change it, delete it, whatever.
A simple PM or email will suffice. People that have character will read the note, and then decide what light they want to be seen in.
If people ignore those messages, then it's time to not be nice anymore. It's certainly Don's right, and if it's the majority opinion, they consider it his duty.
There's a huge difference between honest discourse and debate, and bomb throwing. Some topics just can't be discussed without people having many folks elevate the "discussion" to something personal or worse. Those topics just simply have to be abandoned.
If threads proceed in a courteous, caring manner, nobody on the site should have a problem. Some do anyway, like the rubber neck syndrome in accident scenes. They hate it, but they keep looking anyway.
I, for one, would prefer the personal approach, since it's the most direct method, and it provides for far less drama. If anyone has an issue with one of my posts, I want to here about it, so pm me. I can go over the edge like anyone else, and I want to be told about it. Nothing vague, just lay it out. Really, I'm ok with that.
People tend to be too private with their feelings, and too vague and ambiguous with their responses.
I have no desire to visit Don's site here and walk over his floors with muddy shoes.