Let's try to sort out what's do-able. Perhaps we could post our preferences/needs for date, time, place and special concerns and then we can figure out what works best.
For me it's any
weekend date before the end of Oct, no preference for land or lake (I have a boat and can host 2 other people from Alton Bay area if needed). I guess I'm easy
ps - I opine that it's better for all to gather for a few beers at a pub than have an elaborate affair that some can't attend. There's always next year to to make something big happen. (Grant - I'd say Garwoods but this weekend "Mee" has me going to a going-away party. Perhaps the following Fri or Sat ? a meeting of the ex-com post fatto planing comittee ??

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pps - Fat Jack - thinking about the PJ party. I'd bet some of the forum females are fabulous in nightware but I hear the FLL might attend. Furthermore, and I say this is a rumor I'm starting, I hear that he sleeps "au natureil". Not sure I'm ready for that