Hateful pms

[Evenstar]

Thanks so much for your responses.

Originally Posted by Skipper of the Sea Que

Evenstar, I am not one of your biggest fans - after all, among other things you have inferred that I am/was Lame and (getting) Pathetic - not to rehash old stuff.

I addressed that comment to "you guys," after a number of posters had personally attacked me.

On a forum like this one, there are only words. Hateful words and comments as the "Sticks and stones."

Originally Posted by brk-lnt

For whatever reason, you insist on maintaining a certain attitude in your posts that make you come off as very arrogant and bull headed. Couple this with the fact that you're supporting an unpopular opinion amongst the forum in general, and the rest kind of writes itself. Several people have tried to give you some advice on how you can communicate your viewpoint without sounding so obnoxious, but you persist in your approach.

I've tried to explain this several times, but most of my critics here don't seem to understand: I suffered a rather severe head injury when I was very young, which damaged much of the left side of my brain. So I have some major language problems. Putting my thoughts into words is very difficult, since I am only able to think in images. I am very direct and extremely literal - that's the only way that I can communicate. I was also taught to stand up for myself and for my beliefs. If that comes across as "very arrogant and bull headed", then I'm sorry.

[NightWing]

Originally Posted by Evenstar

Thanks so much for your responses.


I addressed that comment to "you guys," after a number of posters had personally attacked me.

On a forum like this one, there are only words. Hateful words and comments as the "Sticks and stones."


I've tried to explain this several times, but most of my critics here don't seem to understand: I suffered a rather severe head injury when I was very young, which damaged much of the left side of my brain. So I have some major language problems. Putting my thoughts into words is very difficult, since I am only able to think in images. I am very direct and extremely literal - that's the only way that I can communicate. I was also taught to stand up for myself and for my beliefs. If that comes across as "very arrogant and bull headed", then I'm sorry.

Evenstar, I have observed your postings in several threads and it is very obvious to me that you are extremely passionate in your beliefs and truly love and respect the beautiful waterways of New Hampshire.

I have known about your brain injury for a short while and am indeed impressed that you have overcome your language problems. I would never have guessed the difficulty you speak of. You have obviously worked very hard to overcome your shortfalls and I salute you for that.

I post here from time to time and, for the most part, don't run into much opposition of my views or information that I present. I can think of only one or two individuals who like to poke, prod and argue. Further exchange within the thread only causes more opposition because some folks are as entrenched in their opinions as I am in mine.

There comes a time when it is best to present one's case, discuss it a bit and not pursue it if it is apparent that the audience is not responding the way you would like. Sometimes it is best to just let it go, rather than get upset and further your own grief.

There is no pass/fail in forums such as this one. Sometimes it is best to retreat with dignity. I wish you all the best.

[brk-lnt]

Originally Posted by Evenstar

I've tried to explain this several times, but most of my critics here don't seem to understand: I suffered a rather severe head injury when I was very young, which damaged much of the left side of my brain. So I have some major language problems. Putting my thoughts into words is very difficult, since I am only able to think in images. I am very direct and extremely literal - that's the only way that I can communicate. I was also taught to stand up for myself and for my beliefs. If that comes across as "very arrogant and bull headed", then I'm sorry.

And I'm sure people have read your explanations several times. The PMs you get would indicate that those folks are not sympathetic to your condition.

You have identified a fairly stable feedback loop here:
- You post your thoughts/feelings in the best manner that you can ->
People get irritated or annoyed by your position and flog you publicly and privately.


You can accept the flogging, difficult as it might be. Or, you can stop posting. Unfortunately (and I mean this very very sincerely) you are not likely to cause the vast majority of people here to like you or accept you without some change on YOUR part. Trust me, I get that you may not want to, or may not be able to change.

I applaud you for standing up for your position and taking the time to articulate your thoughts. I would also suggest that you would do best to simply drop/ignore any speed limit and kayak safety debates, your efforts there sound time consuming, and you are not making any progress for the effort spent.